Romance deal-breakers/makers?

Hey so I was just thinking about lurrve and compatability. Options:

a) Over-lapping interests and lifestyles are essential so that the most enjoyable stuff is shared.

b) An intimate connection trumps hobby, city/country, music & personality differences.

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nionn
about 4 years

A core part of my perceived identity is being shy/bi&high - but I think I'm also looking for a monogamous romantic long term female partner...I've been upfront about who I am and now I've met a girl who might also tag with those same three descriptors, is bright, passionate about stuff & we get on - so it's like AllysonGrey says choose carefully and then stop looking...I'm at that event horizon of falling truly madly deeply for my new lover but there's a distant intuitive concern too...not sure if I can't believe it's all happening so I'm trying to sabotage things or even protect myself from heart-ache if it all turns to custard.

The worry point though was to hear that she's not so into the countryside...wilderness/coast hiking is close to my favourite thing so...but then it sounds like possible we could tandem together which is a lifelong ambition (me at the back please).

Ok, that was helpful to think out-loud. I'm going to try and make a go of it but listen to my intuition and warm to her picks in pop music maybe (lol, my last girlfriend, as the band name says, was MetalSharon and it was fun getting rock-schooled along the way *badger*)

nionn
about 4 years

^good call.

Ian Highley
about 4 years

The amount of change that occurs in a period as short as 6 months, much less a few years, or a decade, leads to two completely different people than when they met. At least that is my experience. Expecting a relationship to survive on similar passions, instead of passion for each other, seems like a bad idea. But that's just me.